Context: my spouse and I adopted an 9 mo lab/pit mix 2 months ago. Though we had both been dog owners before, we had never been the primary trainers of those pets. I joined this sub weeks before we got her to learn as much as I could and in a short time, she has taught ME so much.
I think the biggest thing has been mindset and patience. At baseline, I can be an impatient person. From excited greeter on leash walks to recall (okay, it's still not great but its something) to loose leash walking to having guests in our home, I have been learning how to curb my own emotions for her sake. Sometimes I still have to apologize for my bad attitude (not that I actually yell at her, but sometimes I talk out my annoyance / she can tell when I get frustrated). Most of that annoyance comes out of my own fear of inadequacy, and realizing that it has more to do with me than her has built our bond.
Today, with time and cheese, we had a calm daycare drop-off. As we sat in the lobby, she looked at me and I could swear that look said: "See, Mom? I'm capable!" <3

Hello, first of all im new to this sub because i have been experiencing some issues whilst getting to know a girl and being not so expert in the field of dating or meeting women im fencing with a lot of thoughts and confusion towards this particular situation. I will try to put everything on context in order for you to understand as much as possible and to get some advice for a better turn around :).
So here it goes, in March i met a girl who was visiting my city becuase she has family there. She is my neighbour´s niece so she asked me if i could get her out to meet bars and so something else because felt a little bored (shes my same age 26). I took her out on a Tuesday and we repeated on thursday and friday. That friday was great, we talked all day and went for dinner and the kissed a bit. She told me that she expected more rapid response from me but oh what the hell. The next day i reached out texting her and she was cold, i didnt understand why tho. I reached again on monday because she was leaving on tuesday and i wanted to ask her what was wrong. Long story short she claimed that it was just a kiss and she was on vacation no more than that blabla. I asked if we could stay connected at least and she happily agreed. A couple of days later she dm me on instagram with some cat reels and we started talking, days passed by and we continue talking even more, we asked questions about us, things we liked or not, plans we will do in the future such as going art shows, food, coffees, etc. For 2 months we talked till no end and everything was great because i was going to move to the city where she lives (not because of her but my studies and work). I told her that i was moving and she didnt show a GREAT emotion towards that at the moment, but continued planning things for the future.
As in May i arrived to the city and of course we continued texting. One day i came across a coffe shop she told me and i said to her hey, i just happen to came across the place you told me about, want to come one day? She answered that weekend could not make it but next one surely yes. I was like ok no problem and continued talking as usual. That weekend came down and i invited her for saturday, she told me already had plans but if i wanted to move it to sunday and i agreed, after that we talked a lot that same day, i saw her texting me like she was very and eager to meet. That sunday came and hours before i texted her to meet at certain time because i finished a footbal match sooner than expected. An hour or so later she replied to me saying she had a headache and would text me a little later when she felt better. (i already began to think that she would possibly say no, and she did). She texted me the classic “oh you are going to hate me but” message and i said ok no problem, get well soon and we shall meet the next time. Days passed and i didnt talk to her again, she responded to my ig messages i left her on sunday (yes we talked mainly on IG but always talk about the date on WPP, crazy i know) She told me sorry for the delay and if i was ok, i replied her that i was fine in a cold (but not in the jerk way). We soon started to talk as before again and i propose on a wednesday a date again to what she agreed on a beer on saturdays night. When the day came up she told me that she could not make it for the night but instead offered me going to a 6pm coffe. I agreed but well, i must say i saw her with low to non effort for the date whatsoever, as it was like an obligation she had. I mean it was the first time we saw each other after 3 months and she was acting like whatever. The meeting lasted just 1:30 hs because she was in a hurry and tho i felt happy in that moment, i started to realize she didnt see it that way, she was weird, a little distant and not so eager after not seeing each other for almost 3 months. I took her near her house, it seems that she didnt want to let me know where she lives and told her that we eventually would talk during the week to that she said yes indeed. I did text her on tuesday about a food place she recommended me and i noticed some cold messages from her again, she took hours and hours to respond and made me feel like what happened? At this point i was already aware that something was happening. So enough of texting i offered a meeting again on saturday after a couple of messages and she said she had plans with friend for a birthday (back in the coffee shop she told me that she was already planning it but i forgot) However in any moment she counteroffered me so at that point i was ready to move on and stop trying. I replied the next morning saying that it was ok, no problem and at least we could fix another time. She never replied to this last message which happened a week ago. She still has me in Wpp contacts, she follows me on IG too but doesnt see my stories so she knows maybe i could reach her anytime.
I went for friends and family for advice and help, everyone told me that for them she seemed interested at the beggining but if she didnt make the effort of at least setting up another day for a meeting then she was not that into me. Im very sad at the moment trying to understand what could have happened, and the fact that she isnt capable of text me after knowing me for more than 3 months its driving me crazy!, its not like im a tinder match that she never got to met. I have been single for a long time, i love spending time for and to myself. Im a nice guy with job, hobbies and friends so its not like im trying to find a hole in my heart just because im bored, when i see someone worth i go for it. This might not be the right girl for me tho after all.
I ask here for any advice, help and whatever helps me cross this emotions of dissapointment because some days i ask myself if i should text her explaining myself what i feel (i already know what she doesnt want with me but i would like to stay in contact tho because we shared a lot of interests and was funny to be with her) but at the same time i know that i did nothing wrong. However i sadly have the hope that she will text me anytime and that feeling is the most difficult one for me to erase.

Hi, I have over 13 years of professional experience as a game developer. I have worked on projects like official Teletubbies and Transformers mobile games, pc games, backend, React apps, api, Unity plugins and more. I am looking for remote work, part-time or full-time projects.
Showreel: https://youtu.be/ivtmL3wMoMQ
My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukas-penkava-32b95541
Most recent game I worked on: https://apps.apple.com/cz/app/fantasy-archer-elven-bow/id1617831318
Teletubbies: https://youtu.be/HgMM1GDKMu4
Not Tonight: https://store.steampowered.com/app/733790/Not\_Tonight/
Hourly rate range is anywhere between: $50 - $80 ( length / complexity of the project, regular programming role / lead role etc. )

I live with my partner and we have different working hors. This means when I finish I have around 2-3 hours before my partner comes home. In this time I like to relax and then cook dinner for her getting home. I have a few hobbies including walking, reading, going to the gym and playing video games.
The amount I play video games varies since I don't play multiplayer games, only single player games with a good story, good gameplay etc. This means I will go weeks without even playing and only using the ps5 for netflix and then there will be times I play daily. Even when I play daily it tends to be when my gf is at work and it'll only be an hour or 2. If I play when she is at home, it tends to be when my gf is busy with one of her hobbies or if she is asleep.
I was on a video game last weekend and she said she thinks I play too much. At this point I had been on for less than 30 mins. I asked why she thought that and she said at times it's like I'm more focused on the video game than her. I disagreed since the majority of the time when she is home, I'm not on a video game. I pointed out she reads for a longer period of time each day than I play video games but I don't tell her to cut that down and she just said it's different.
I asked what she'd like us to do instead and she just shrugged. I told her there was nothing wrong with the amount I play and I should be allowed to have hobbies. She said I am not thinking about us and the relationship. AITA for refusing to cut down on the amount I play video games?

Hi there! Its been a busy month and im just looking for some friends to chill with :)
Things about me:
My name is Jonathan
I work at Hobby Lobby I am 5’11
I love to be sarcastic and funny
I live in Texas
I have 3 dogs
I love to game and play stardew zelda, mario, halo, and a lot of other games. I am a gamer after all. If anyone wants to game! Let me know!
I love to go walking, going exploring in the woods and in general and i love nature in general.
I love to sing on my free time.
I draw and read young adult fantasy such as ACOTAR and the mortal instruments
I like Lorde, Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift, Daft Punk, Green Day, Linkin Park.
I enjoy synthwave, rock, edm, etc
Just some things about me :)

Hi there! Its been a busy month and im just looking for some friends to chill with :)
Things about me:
My name is Jonathan
I work at Hobby Lobby I am 5’11
I love to be sarcastic and funny
I live in Texas
I have 3 dogs
I love to game and play stardew zelda, mario, halo, and a lot of other games. I am a gamer after all. If anyone wants to game! Let me know!
I love to go walking, going exploring in the woods and in general and i love nature in general.
I love to sing on my free time.
I draw and read young adult fantasy such as ACOTAR and the mortal instruments
I like Lorde, Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift, Daft Punk, Green Day, Linkin Park.
I enjoy synthwave, rock, edm, etc
Just some things about me :)

I’m not sure how it is for men with women, but as a straight 23F in the online dating world…
It’s literally so tiring to meet guy after guy that only works, goes to the gym religiously, watches sports, plays video games, and drinks everyday on weekends.
I do go to the gym myself, but I just consider it more of a habit than a hobby. I also like to go outside and go on walks and hikes sometimes, rather than being inside of a gym for 2 hours.
Maybe I’m just being judgy and critical, but it doesn’t seem like people like to be outside and picking up interesting hobbies as much nowadays.

Everything I do sooner or later starts to bore me to the extreme, I hate it.
An example from yesterday: I like playing computer games, I found a game that I really liked, played it for 2 hours, but had to stop. I couldn't wait for today to play again, but today I procrastinated before starting it, and when I finally did after 15 minutes, I had enough, I felt incredibly bored. I can't even remember the last time I finished a game. It's the same with TV series, I get really into one, and after a season or two, I abandon them not because I don't like them, but because I get bored with them.
I'm like that with everything: hobbies, interests, work. There are days when I feel hopeless because everything I start doing is incredibly boring to me. So much so that it exhausts me.
I've had many "passions" in my life that I engaged in, bought the necessary equipment for their realization, told everyone how much I love doing them, only to lose interest completely after a month. There are countless examples: airsoft, programming, 3D modeling, drawing, bushcraft, calisthenics, and many, many others. I'm constantly searching for something new, I've had enough of it.
That's about it, I just wanted to vent.

been playing a non-classbased MOBA with a fairly small playercount (as far as i can tell the playercount in the world is roughly 10 people per hour). the problem with it isn't that you can't find a game -- if you host a lobby & go make yourself a sandwich you'll be at least halfway there by the time u get back
the problem is that every match is decided by which team has a player leave first -- and most of the time it is in the first few minutes of a match, usually before any lead has been achieved by either team. it's very weird & ruins almost every match. i probably don't have to tell you that winning because you outnumber your opponents in a symettrical competition is less fun than losing a fair match with teammates who are trying
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so i've been mulling this over lately since this is going to be relevant to a project i'm working on; what do you do about leavers/quitters in a game with a small playercount? let's assume that banning leavers, or any variation of it, is off the table*
*(if the game has 8 players globally atm, & it takes 8 to start a match, then banning 1 of them for quitting after map load, even temporarily, is effectively the same as temp banning the other 7 players too. effectively the same as shutting the server down)

I am a pretty motivated guy in my late twenties. However, if there was one thing I could change about myself is that I'd get up early and be able to do exercise at the start of the day - like run a 5k.
I'm currently lack a specific time to wake up meaning Im waking up around 10:30am and going to sleep at around 2:30am. I find myself productive in the evenings but I want to also be productive in the mornings so I can alter my routine a little. I often find myself tinkering with hobby projects until the early hours having started them at 7:30pm.
Additionally, I recognise that one key element of getting up early is going to bed early. So say I wanted to wake up at 8am, I go to bed at midnight. What then happens is I accidentally browse TikTok or Reddit for an hour or two because I have no motivation to sleep with the "Just one more video" mantra OR I do go to sleep but when the alarm goes off in the morning I turn it off because my "sleep" brain tells me to get more sleep. I know I could delete the apps but I do still want to browse them on my downtime. I know I could move my alarm to across the room but when I've tried this previously I just get up turn it off and go back to sleep with my sleepy brain. I am honestly not functional in the mornings its like Im a different person with different goals.
Anyone experienced similar stuff and know how to fix it?
Thanks!

Hey there. Happy Friday! I would love to meet new people and chat about anything. I do biomedical research, specifically cancer biology and my hobbies include hiking, reading, going to concerts, and building stuff. I’m into astronomy (not astrology) and could spend hours stargazing. One fun fact about me is that I lived in the Amazon jungle for a month. Looking forward to chatting with you.

Hey there. Happy Friday! I would love to meet new people and chat about anything. I do biomedical research and my hobbies include hiking, reading, going to concerts, and building stuff. I’m into astronomy (not astrology) and could spend hours stargazing. Looking forward to chatting with you.

hours later, opening web browser and seeing the old.reddit tab, closing tab to grab phone and open rif. I'm sure i'll still mindlessly do that for a while, even if not on the same sites.
rif, you've saved me from lectures, meetings, crises, boredom, fidgetting, picking, peeling, peeling beer bottle labels when I couldn't get away, waiting at the bus stop, arriving early at the movies, general community hobby learnings.... oh, and even landed me a job! Nope, not reddit, I was browsing rif at a bar years back and someone thought I was "checking reviews and responding to customer emails" at 1AM and that they were surprised because I was too young to bring work to a bar. We chatted and eventually I got to work for them doing assistant/admin stuff at their firm. No, I didn't tell them it was rif and yes, I was on rif while working there. bwahaha! Never knew how I could get out of retail/food as a working student but rif helped me there too. I hijacked my own post but where better a place to share this story.
Thank you for all that you've done rif and the rif people!

Shiets gonna get real soon enough~
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Memory Transcription Subject: Slanek, Venlil Civilian
Date [Standardized Human Time]: November 13, 2136
Nulia I swear…
I love this Gojid with all my heart, but she would not let me go. He has been holding only tightly to me like a backpack, her tail wagging the whole time as we walked through the capital towards the new headquarters. She was constantly asking me “Are we there yet?!”, all excitedly… It made sense, Marcel was much more like a father figure to Nulia, and she seemed really quick to adopt him as a father the same way he adopted her as his daughter…
“She’s really impatient…”
I look over to hear Onso. The Yotul accepted my invitation to join us to see if we could see Marcel. He seemed ecstatic at the idea of meeting a human face to face over the phone, and that excitement wasn’t gone in the slightest.
“Oh, don’t act as if you’re any different~!”
We both shared a laugh as the headquarters came into view. It had drones flying about building up parts of the building under construction. The headquarters itself was a tall building with a strange tower at the top. Half the block consisted of the main building and the parking lot, while the other half of the block seemed to have a walled building… perhaps a prison block for inmates? It was all up to interpretation. The building itself seemed to have a navy-blue painted symbol along the front. It exuded a sort of importance, one that was found in many other government buildings.
There was a sign out front, “Help wanted, No exterminators beyond this point.”
Let’s see Marcel…
Onso spoke up, “So, you’re looking to get a job as one of those new ‘Police officers?”
I turned to face him, “Yeah! I had some experience as a UN peacekeeper for a while, so I know the general idea of what to expect. You might be welcome to work here too, if you're looking for work that is…”
He seemed to ponder my words for a moment, “I guess I could… maybe they have some machines they could use as an engineer for?”
“You’re an engineer?” I asked as we began to walk to the entrance. “I’m impressed. Those kinds of people are talented in many ways.”
“Daww thank you~”
We both laughed as we entered the main lobby of the building, while the upper floors were still under construction, the lobby was perfectly maintained and completed… There was a human working the front desk. We both approach her and give a gentle wave. “Hello miss, I was wondering if the overseer was available?”
She looked at me with suspicion, “Any reason why?”
“I was his partner during the exchange program. You can tell him a Venlil named Slanek is here.”
Her eyes widened, “I see… one second please.” She went about typing away at the computer as Onso went to sit down in the lobby chairs. I gave Nulia one of the little play magazines… she couldn’t read all of it just yet, but soon enough she’d grow to be the smartest Gojid I’d know.
Later, we heard some footsteps down the hallway approaching the lobby. When the figure revealed himself, his red plumage and scarred face turned to face us. A smile appeared on his face and the sparkle in his eyes became ever more apparent.
“Oh my God! It is you!”
Marcel spoke with excitement as he walked over to us… I stood up with Nulia in my arms as Marcel pulled us into a comforting hug. “When I received the message, I had a Venlil named Slanek waiting for me in my office, I thought it was too good to be true! But here you are and with little Nulia too!”
“Nuh uh! I’m a big kid now!”
Marcel and I laughed at Nulia, she was always such a joy to have around…
“Sooo… not to ruin the reunion… but I’m Onso.”
Marcel looked over to the Yotul with a warm and inviting smile, “It’s a pleasure Onso!” Marcel shook the Yotul's paw. “It’s great to see you and Nulia again Slanek! How have things been?”
I sighed, “Hectic, what with all the recent events and the massive shift in society we’ve had within such a short time. But it's all good! Nulia passed an entrance exam to get accepted into a good school!”
Marcel smiled widely at the fact, “That’s my little genius! I’m so proud!” Marcel went about booping Nulia on the nose, which made her giggle all cutely.
Onso piped up again, “Slanek and I are still looking for work… He made the suggestion of coming to work for you!”
Marcel’s smile beamed even more, “Is that true?! Wonderful! Come with me to my office! I have free time until my next interview and I think I should be able to squeeze you two in~!”
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Memory Transcription Notice: Chronological leap of 0.5 hours later
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The process was just like any other Interview for any other job, long and tiring. But it was worth it for the chance to work with Marcel again. Nulia was watching kid shows on the couch with my holopad as Onso and I went through the interview.
After a bit Marcel leaned forward resting his chin on his hands. “Given that you two seem to both have the necessary skills and experience for both the positions you want… You got the job! Come back here in two days for the orientation video!” Onso and I celebrated at the News and gave each other a high five. Marcel simply laughed at the scene before him.
Just then, we heard a voice, it was faint, but considering how high up we were it was clearly loud. The three of us look out a window and down into the parking lot to see a riot at the gate… They were all holding signs that were…
Anti-human and pro-exterminator…
…
I almost feel sorry for them…
Almost…
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(LORE DUMP)
:: Human policy is to dismantle and replace anything exterminator... anyone that opposes this or fights against it is to be executed as per human decree. Exterminators are to be investigated and those that express signs of deranged psychosis are to either be arrested or killed. ::
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If you find yourself spending 30+ hours a week playing video games and realize how much of a waste of time it truly is, it's time to take control and embark on a journey of personal growth. Imagine the possibilities if those 30+ hours were dedicated to learning a new skill or pursuing meaningful activities for an entire year.
I once found myself in a similar situation, and I made the decision to quit gaming completely, cutting it out cold turkey. I deleted all my games and reset my progress to remove any temptation or triggers.
However, this isn't the first time I've attempted to quit gaming.
I learned a valuable lesson from my previous attempt: simply quitting without a plan or replacement activity often leads to relapse.
After a few weeks of feeling lost and unsure of what to do with my newfound free time, I fell back into the trap of gaming, playing for hours once again.
I realized that to break free from the addiction, I needed to replace gaming with something else that would gradually transform my life. This could be anything from going to the gym, working out at home, learning a high-value skill, or engaging in hobbies that contribute to personal growth.
Treating life as a video game, where the goal is to level up in real-life endeavors, can be an effective mindset shift.
Instead of spending countless hours gaming, I committed myself to learning a high-value skill. By replacing my gaming time with productive activities.
One strategy that has greatly helped me is using a structured schedule. I fill up my Google Calendar with tasks related to my goals, ensuring I allocate time for studying copywriting or any other skill I aim to develop. This not only keeps me accountable but also provides a sense of direction and purpose.
So, If you're ready to break free from a video game addiction and take charge of your life, I'm here to unveil four proven strategies that can help you on your journey towards quitting video games to pursue your journey in personal growth, transformation, and success.

1. Set Clear Goals: Start by defining your long-term goals and the areas of your life you want to focus on, such as career, relationships, health, or personal growth. This will help you prioritize your time and energy towards achieving these goals.
2. Find Meaningful Alternatives: Explore activities and hobbies that align with your interests and goals. Engage in activities that promote physical fitness, enhance creativity, or contribute to personal growth. By replacing gaming with fulfilling alternatives, you'll develop new skills and passions that make your life more enjoyable.
3. Create a Structured Schedule: Establish a daily or weekly schedule that includes specific time slots for work or study, physical exercise, social activities, hobbies, and personal development. Stick to this schedule as much as possible to maintain a routine and stay productive. Tools like Google Calendar can help you organize your tasks effectively.
4. Celebrate Progress: Recognize and celebrate each small step you take towards overcoming your gaming addiction and becoming more productive. No matter how small the achievement may seem, acknowledging your progress will keep you motivated. Remember, personal growth is a journey, and every milestone is worth celebrating.

Remember to be patient with yourself throughout this process. It won't be easy, but by employing these strategies, setting your sights on success, forging a network of supportive individuals, and empowering yourself, the process will be 10x easier.
Remember: Quitting cold turkey is great, but you need to replace it with something else.

If you find yourself spending 30+ hours a week playing video games and realize how much of a waste of time it truly is, it's time to take control and embark on a journey of personal growth.
Imagine the possibilities if those 30+ hours were dedicated to learning a new skill or pursuing meaningful activities for an entire year.
I once found myself in a similar situation, and I made the decision to quit gaming completely, cutting it out cold turkey. I deleted all my games and reset my progress to remove any temptation or triggers.
However, this isn't the first time I've attempted to quit gaming.
I learned a valuable lesson from my previous attempt: simply quitting without a plan or replacement activity often leads to relapse.
After a few weeks of feeling lost and unsure of what to do with my newfound free time, I fell back into the trap of gaming, playing for hours once again.
I realized that to break free from the addiction, I needed to replace gaming with something else that would gradually transform my life. This could be anything from going to the gym, working out at home, learning a high-value skill, or engaging in hobbies that contribute to personal growth.
Treating life as a video game, where the goal is to level up in real-life endeavors, can be an effective mindset shift.
Instead of spending countless hours gaming, I committed myself to learning a high-value skill. By replacing my gaming time with productive activities.
One strategy that has greatly helped me is using a structured schedule. I fill up my Google Calendar with tasks related to my goals, ensuring I allocate time for studying copywriting or any other skill I aim to develop. This not only keeps me accountable but also provides a sense of direction and purpose.
So, If you're ready to break free from a video game addiction and take charge of your life, I'm here to unveil four proven strategies that can help you on your journey towards quitting video games to pursue your journey in personal growth, transformation, and success.

1. Set Clear Goals: Start by defining your long-term goals and the areas of your life you want to focus on, such as career, relationships, health, or personal growth. This will help you prioritize your time and energy towards achieving these goals.
2. Find Meaningful Alternatives: Explore activities and hobbies that align with your interests and goals. Engage in activities that promote physical fitness, enhance creativity, or contribute to personal growth. By replacing gaming with fulfilling alternatives, you'll develop new skills and passions that make your life more enjoyable.
3. Create a Structured Schedule: Establish a daily or weekly schedule that includes specific time slots for work or study, physical exercise, social activities, hobbies, and personal development. Stick to this schedule as much as possible to maintain a routine and stay productive. Tools like Google Calendar can help you organize your tasks effectively.
4. Celebrate Progress: Recognize and celebrate each small step you take towards overcoming your gaming addiction and becoming more productive. No matter how small the achievement may seem, acknowledging your progress will keep you motivated. Remember, personal growth is a journey, and every milestone is worth celebrating.

Remember to be patient with yourself throughout this process. It won't be easy, but by employing these strategies, setting your sights on success, forging a network of supportive individuals, and empowering yourself, the process will be 10x easier.
Remember: Quitting cold turkey is great, but you need to replace it with something else.

Here's a link to the comment I'm replying to.

All right, If I'm not mistaken, you're of the sort whose opinions aren't necessarily dependent on any real life facts, someone that no matter what favors the dictations of his own ideological principles over reality. But for the sake of those few people that will read this, I'll respond to your comment, as I think this is an important topic.

I'd be interested to see the statistics.

Well, sure, here's one study that mentions it. And for those reading, here's a short extraction from the study's summary: *In all developed countries, women, especially mothers, work fewer paid hours than their spouses. Which is a kinda silly discussion since it's pretty widely known that women generally choose less time demanding careers than men; take jobs in the scientific field and manager positions, for example (here's a study mentioning this, and here's another). And I mean, logically speaking, if this wasn't the case, tell me who would be home taking care of the children? If you don't understand how much of a challenge it is for women to balance between children's care-giving and their career, then you have some serious self-education to do.

I'm fairly certain that woman are pursuing and completing post-secondary education in greater numbers than men. Again, I'd be interested in seeing you statistics.

[For this comment, I'll borrow from an answer of mine, to some other comment on this post, here it goes.] This is true in the sense that modern western universities are experiencing a larger number of female students, and at the same time a decline in male students. But, which is a pretty relevant but, the majority of women will not pursue 'scientific' careers in the same scale as men do (here's a link to one study where this is mentioned). Not to mention the fact that the majority of women will sacrifice their careers for the sake of spending more time with their children. Those factors combined create the aforementioned pattern of men being more 'scholar' than women, since most women's studies will be of secondary importance to them in relationship to the requirements of their motherhood. A side note is that I probably should've used the word 'scholar' instead of 'academic'; I excuse myself with the fact that english is my third language.

Again, I'd love to see the source for it. I'm not saying it's untrue. But it seems to be the center of your argument.

I already linked studies on this subject. But seriously, if you need a scientific study to explain to you that women's time spent with their children necessarily take away from their pursuits of scholarly endeavors, then I'm not sure what a scientific study can do for you. Do you read a scientific paper relating to the human necessity of taking a dump, before you squat down to do your business, as well? It's funny how it's the most fact-denying people that will be the ones mostly prepared to demand proof deemed by them to be 'scientific', in an argument where they don't have anything other than their ideological rigidity on their sides.

I feel I gave you two examples of characters that well represent motherhood.

I'm not talking about if women are portrayed in a positive or negative light, but rather how realistic their portrayal is. And as I wrote in reply to other comments on this post, motherhood is a sort of 'sideshow' or 'hobby' throughout The Stormlight Archives series. Which isn't a realistic portrayal of real life women. And here's another study for you, mentioning the fact that more women than men deem their families to be the most important aspects of their lives. Which makes motherhood neither a hobby nor a sideshow in women's lives.

I honestly don't understand how youve come to this conclusion. Hesina's character is centered in motherhood. Navani is a mother with grown children. That doesn't make motherhood a hobby or side hustle by any means.

It's hard to talk about Navani and Hesina precisely for the fact that their children are grown up. But when it comes to Navani, for example, it's hardly a good portrayal of women at all, since throughout 2 books and a half, I haven't got a single memory of her acting in a motherly way towards neither one of her children. So where's the motherly character, whose personality is worthy of the aforementioned study? I mean, let me ask you, if you grew up with both your parents, when you were a little child, did your mother spend equal time taking care of and working/studying?

Which one of the female characters is the perfect woman? Which one is meant to be presented as a perfect person? The entire series is about people being flawed.

'Perfect' as a synonym to the word 'ideal'. Although all of his characters have their flaws and struggles, there is definitely a pattern of idealism in the Alethi society, for example, that matches his left-leaning ideology. One simple example is 'logic' and 'scholarship' are ideals of that society. Which clearly is an attempt to show how functional such a society would be: which implicit tells the reader that real world's society's gender specific choices are nothing but a consequence of culture. A claim with very little basis in reality, which clearly goes against the studies I linked to this reply.

Not every woman is a mother, that does not make them less real. All of the women he has portrayed could be considered real. They do not need to be mothers to be real women. Again I would argue that Hesina is a representation of true motherhood.

First of all, I never said that women need to be mothers to be real women, so that's a shameless strawman from your side; and I don't believe it either. But you present exceptions to the rule as if they were the rule. The typical postmodernist reasoning. No, not all women are mothers, but most women are, at some point in their lives. And yes, all women portrayed in the series could be considered real, variation is real, yes. But my problem is the ratio of Sandersons portrayal, when it comes to relevant characters. Sorry but no, most women in real life are not scholars and warriors.

This leaves me feeling like you are just trolling. Motherhood =/= women's true personalities. There are many women who's identity is centered on being a mother and there are many that are not. This idea is you doing exactly what you are accusing Sanderson of. You seem to be projecting your ideals of what being a woman is as the real or true woman.

Once again, you're strawmanning me. I'm not saying that motherhood is women's true personality. What I'm saying is that women generally tend to view motherhood as the most important aspect of their lives. And in the broader context of my criticism of The Stormlight Archive: Sanderson's portrayal of motherhood as a sort of 'hobby' in women's lives, make the series portrayal of women fall short of being realistic. That's all.

A storyline document has been found at a hotel where EastEnders creative team holds their conferances
It reveals not only the name of the unlucky body on the floor during Christmas 23 but also what happens to the body.
Ive redacted the name of the victim and only shown the front page of the document
But From what we can gather from this
- CHRISTMAS DAY IS AN HOUR LONG SPECIAL AT 7PM AND THEN A POST WATERSHED 9PM HALF HOUR EPISODE
- THE KILLER IS NONE OF THE 6 WOMEN IN THE CAMPAIGN AND IS IN FACT A SECRET 7TH FACE WHO WAS OFF CAMERA DURING THE FLASH FORWARD
- THE BODY IS HIDDEN AND LOCKED INSIDE A FREEZER IN THE VIC KITCHEN UNTIL IT CAN BE DECIDED WHAT IS GOING TO BE DONE ABOUT IT.
- THERE ARE AT LEAST 10 PEOPLE AWARE OF THE MURDER AND THE COVER UP IS EXTENSIVE.
- CINDY AND IAN BEALE RETURNED AT HALLOWEEN
- CINDY WAS PLACED IN WITNESS PROTECTION AFTER A VIOLENT INCIDENT IN THE PRISON
- CINDY'S WITNESS PROTECTION NAME WAS ROSE AND SHE WAS MARRIED TO GEORGE KNIGHT. HER DAUGHTERS ARE ANNA AND GINA (WHO IS NAMED AFTER HER SISTER)
- UPON LEARNING OF HER DAUGHTER LUCY'S MURDER IN THE PRESS CINDY WAS DEVASTATED AND ALSO SCARED THAT HER NEW IDENTITY MIGHT BE REVEALED AND FLED FROM GEORGE AND HER DAUGHTERS ANNA AND GINA
- IAN RETURNS AND BUYS HALF OF THE UNDERTAKERS FROM THE COKERS
- A FIRE AT THE PANESARS ON BONFIRE NIGHT SEES EVE AND VINNY TRAPPED. ONE DOES NOT SURVIVE THE EXPLOSION
- EVE AND SUKI'S RELATIONSHIP GOES PUBLIC...
- LITTLE MO RETURNS FOR 6 WEEKS FROM CHRISTMAS DAY ONWARDS FOR A STORYLINE WITH HER SON FREDDIE
- FREDDIE BEGINS WORKING AT THE ALBERT
- MARTIN AND STACEY REKINDLE THEIR RELATIONSHIP
- A MYSTERIOUS NEW OLDER FEMALE CHARACTER WORKING FOR RITCHIE BEGINS SHOWING AN UNSUAL INTEREST IN THE PICTURE OF PEGGY MITCHELL BEHND THE QUEEN VIC BAR. IT APPEARS THERE IS A CONNECTION. SHE BEGINS TO WORK FOR PHIL.
- ELAINE AND KATHY FORGE A STRONG BOND BUT KATHY BEGINS EXHIBITING EARLY SIGNS OF DEMENTIA. (COULD JUST BE STRESS DUE TO WHAT HAPPENS AT CHRISTMAS)
- DEPSITE PROMISING LOLA THAT HE AND JAY WOULD LOOK AFTER A LEXI, A CUSTODY BATTLE ENSUES WHEN JAY DISCOVERS BEN HAS BULLIMIA. IN ORDER TO FIGHT BEN IN COURT JAY AND BILLY END UP SELLING THEIR HALF OF THE UNDERTAKERS TO IAN
- CINDY ATTEMPTS TO BUILD BRIDGES WITH GEORGE AND THE GIRLS EVEN GOING SO FAR AS TO AGGRESSIVLEY PERSUE GEORGE ROMANTICALLY. BUT HE IS TOO BUSY HELPING LINDA CONCEAL THE BODY AT THE VIC
- FELIX BEGINS SEEING A MARRIED MAN WHO TURNS VIOLENT
- ALFIE AND JO SHARE A NIGHT OF PASSION
- MITCH IS ACCUSED OF ASSAULTING ONE OF HIS FARES AND EVEN KAREN STRUGGLES TO BELIEVE HE'S INNOCENT
- KEANU AND SHARON STRUGGLE WHEN LISA RETURNS WITH PEGGY TELLING KEANU HE NEEDS TO STEP UP. IT APPEARS THAT LOUISE HAS HAD A MENTAL BREAKDOWN.
THERES TALK OF CHARACTERS RETURNING IN 2024 TO BE DISCUSSED AT NEXT CONFERANCE
THESE INCLUDE - LOUISE MITCHELL AS A RECAST, JANINE CARTER FOR 3 EPISODES IN ANNIVERSARY WEEK, EMMA HARDING FOR A HUGE STORYLINE THAT SEES HER TAKE LEXI
LETITA DEAN IS TAKING 3 MONTHS OFF FROM ANNIVERSARY WEEK SO HER EXIT IS BEING DISCUSSED AT NEXT CONFERENCE
THERES TALK OF STARTING TO PLAN FOR THE 40TH ANNIVERSARY 'BLOCKBUSTER' IN 2025 AND THAT THEY WANT BIG BOLD IDEAS
COULD BE A HUGE STUNT OR COULD BE MAJOR CASTING IT ALL SOUNDS VERY EXCITING
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I have reoccurring abdominal pain. It usually only lasts about a week or two, subsides, and then I may no experience it for months. This time its hung around longer. About 3 weeks now, and its much more painful then usual. The pain starts under my the middle of my rib, spreads around the right and up my shoulder. When this happens the right side of my abdomen distends and feels hard. Its also accompanied by inability to keep food down, pain gets worse when eating or drinking, and I get diarrhea. Oh and some heart burn. Usually I back off of solid foods, and just focus on getting my fluids in as that is most important with POTs.
But I'm now into the 3rd week, I can't keep up with fluids. If i drink to much to fast, I throw it up. I'm drinking warm Gatorade for the most part, some tea, bone broths, and purred squash "soup". Unfortunately my weight dropped down to 119lbs (I'm 5'8") I started to have palpitations, passing out, and syncope episodes while sitting down (only ever have them standing). And for the frist time in my life my blood pressure was high, had a bad headache and I could hear my heart beating in my head. PB is usually 90/50, but it was 130/53. Sitting pulse was about 30 bpm higher than normal, standing was 130+ and all over the place.
I had to go to the ER. I was dehydrated (no surprise), and low on electrolytes. They did several bags of saline, pain meds, anti nausea meds, blood work, and ultrasound. They figured it was my gallbladder, but the ultrasound didn't show anything. They also ultrasound my pancreases, liver, and kidneys.. all good. The ER doc was good, and I was surprised how knowledgeable she was on pots. She said that while she believes that my pain and symptoms are real, they can't find any emergent cause and is referring me to a GI specialist. She also wants me to talk to my PCP about a pot and at home saline infusions in the mean time. She said she thought that if we could take the stress of all the fluids off my stomach them perhaps i can start to get small amounts of food down while we wait to get into the GI specialist.
Few issues, I can't get into my PCP till next week.. so I'm back to trying to get fluids down and keep them down. After the IV I weighed 128.. I did feel significantly better, 2 days out of the ER I'm back to 121. I did try to eat some lentil soup last night.. but threw it up.. I only attempted about 1/2 cup, and ate it slowly over the course of an hour.. didn't matter.. still threw it up. I am going to get some meal replacement shakes and try those.
I know GI issues are common in POTS. It does feel like in the past, because I have POTS, doctors usually just attribute everything to pots and give no solutions to they symptoms. If it were just pain.. I'd suck it up and deal with it.. I do that anyway.. but I can't keep food down, I'm feeling so weak. I don't trust myself to driver, I can barely move around without my heart freaking out and having syncope episodes, or fainting. We only have ONE GI specialist for the entire valley, and traveling further isn't an option at the moment. It could take up to 3 mo to get into him. I don't know what I should be doing in the mean time.. I can't afford to loose anymore weight, I can't keep up with fluids, can't keep food down... I keep hoping that whatever this is (Flare perhaps?) subsides.
I know a lot of Potsies struggle with stomach issues...What have your doctors found, and what should I ask my PCP to look fotry/prescribe/ect? My PCP does try her best to help, and she does take me seriously. What should I do to prepare for the GI specialist. When I went to the cardiologist, I was worried he wouldn't take me seriously so I kept a log of fluids, heart rates, and blood pressure. Should I be doing something similar for the GI specialist? When you are having a hard time keeping food down, how do you supplement nutrition? If you have a port for at home saline infusions.. is it worth it? What should I know?
Also.. since every time I've had tummy issues this is asked by doctors... I don't eat a lot of fat, it seems to aggravate my stomach. I also don't eat dairy.. can't stomach even a little bit of it. I don't eat fried foods.. same thing.. tummy can't handle it. I don't eat a lot of processed foods either. I make almsot everything from scratch. I usually (outside of these times I have these stomach issues) eat a very small meal for breakfast (usually eggs with veggies), Mid day snack (something simple like soup, baked potato, sweet potatoes, squash, small salad) and then dinner is my largest meal, but still pretty small, and I just eat whatever I make for the kids as long as there is no dairy in it. I usually eat this meal right before bed because eating a full meal drops my blood pressure, makes me sleepy and I can't do anything after eating a decent meal. I don't drink soda's, or alcohol. I drink one small cup of coffee in the morning, work on about a gal of Gatorade throughout the day, and have 2 cups of tea (decaf) and 2 cups bone broth. When I can keep food down, I take a multi vitamin, an iron supplement, methy-b complex supplement, and magnesium before bed.
Also, though i've been dx with POTS, we have not had time to rule out possible causes... so I have not had a head CT scan, EDS evaluation, or nerve testing. My husband is in kidney failure and recently lost most of his eye sight, so My health has been on the back burner for a while.. I've been trying to cope the best I can.. obviously I may have overdone it.