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I have some questions about how to request birth certificates and marriage certificate (or certified copies/transcripts) for my German grandparents, who were born in the 1890s in Upper Silesia (now Poland), married there, and fled to Bavaria in 1945 with their children, including my mother. I know all relevant names, places, and dates. The websites of Landesarchiv Berlin and Standesamt I in Berlin both state that one should contact the Landesarchiv for such old cases, but I am in doubt, because in each case, the original Standesamt in Silesia is missing on the list
https://landesarchiv-berlin.de/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/Standesaemt_Ostgebiete.pdf
of Landesarchiv Berlin, which also states that there is still a comprehensive collection of individual certificates from these regions at Standesamt I in Berlin.
1) What is best: (a) send a request to the Landesarchiv, https://landesarchiv-berlin.de/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/personenstandsregister_formular_dt.pdf, assuming that they contact the Standesamt I if necessary, (b) contact the Standesamt I, https://service.berlin.de/dienstleistung/326181/, assuming that they contact the Landesarchiv if necessary, or (c) contact both straight away?
2) Is it possible to request all the records for my grandparents at once (e.g., by sending one email)?
3) Should I also contact the Standesamt in the town in Bavaria where they lived from 1945?

I recently realized that the Telemundo segment on Kidnapped By Danger refers to Jenna as Pablo Escobar's girlfriend and I think he might be the worst one she's dated.

I love dating people to simply put it, I love looking at a girl's eyes and kissing their lips, but I hate hook-up culture. It is not for me, but I feel like I am obligated to sleep with a girl to take things further, especially when it comes to dating outside of my race, I'm a charming guy by nature, so most of the time, the girls really want to take things back home, but after it, I just feel so emotionless and cold, like I lose a part of myself. And the thing is, if you refuse it, women act more differently and distant. It is like I am considered weird for not having sex with someone on the first date.
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I love having sex but for me, it is much more, I can only really enjoy it when I have a connection with a girl or if we have known each other for quite a while. I'd rather just wank-off honestly, my body count is relatively getting higher, which I am not too worried about. Dating culture is what I love though, because it grants me the opportunity to get to know someone more, I always learn new skills and ideas about the world, because a lot of women like to talk about what is on their minds, aside from that the tension of infatuation is also what I love, and I really love kissing and holding hands with a girl that I am enamored with.
I might just be a different guy, but I don't think that hook-up culture is for me, I hope that dating culture distances itself with hook-up culture, sexual compatibility is important, but there are a lot more ways to see it like through verbal foreplay. Hooking-up feels more of like a chore for me, but sex with a girl that I really like just feels like I am on Cloud 9.

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According to USAID investigation, the TPLF deliberately starved #Tigray by diverting humanitarian assistance (food and fuel) to feed its military.
TPLF used to get away with past crimes, including rape, by blaming it on "Eritrean soldiers" ..., well, until their benefactors caught them this time with their pants down. Beware of #TPLFlies.

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Hello,
I have a problem that I can't solve right now. Maybe the swarm intelligence can help me.
This is my starting table:
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Table 1 with all Information
This is my goal:
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My goal
Since the Date in the headline of a table is recognized as text by Excel. I decided to make a row with real dates to avoid a complete fancy formula that isn't readable.
My goal is to have an overview over the costs per Person in every month from column "Payment".
Each month, the person receives their salary from the "Payment" column. However, this varies. This variation is known and is regularly updated in the start table. In the column "date start", the month is defined from which the person is to receive their salary. "Date end" defines the date on which the person will receive his or her last wage. If the column is empty, the person is considered active and continues to receive his/her salary.
I thought about to use SUMIFS but it seams I'm constantly making a mistake.
Currently my Formula is looking like this:
=SUMIFS($E$3:$E$7;$A$3:$A$7;$G3;$C$3:$C$7;"<"&L$1;$D$3:$D$7;OR($D$3:$D$7>=L$1;$D$3:$D$7=""))
How do I manage to take the empty cells into account correctly in the last criteria?
Many thanks in advance

We’ve been dating for a few months now, and we clarified that we wanted to keep it casual and both weren’t/aren’t ready for relationships due to recent breakups. Well, we have a strong connection and things moved way quicker than either expected.
We recently had some time apart due to a vacation, and she returned to a bunch of negative life events and asked for space. I respected that at first and then got anxious and started chasing again, which ended up in her divulging she felt that things were moving too quickly, that she was dealing with death/sickness/addiction in her life, she was PMS/PMDDing, and that she felt overwhelmed.
She also shared she was getting mega relationship vibes from me, that she was crossing her own boundaries by introducing me to family and spending more time with me than she has, but that she wasn’t in the right headspace to decide if we should break it off due to all the life events/physiological things she was going through.
It ended casually with her noting she’d see me at a school-related event in a couple hours, but I avoided her and we haven’t texted/spoken to each other since (2 days ago), even though we texted multiple times a day up until then.
I know I shouldn’t have chased, especially given her texts up to that point were thankful that i was respecting her physical space (she was okay with me texting her as she felt it was minimal). The time apart has allowed me to jump out the pot of boiling water and see that things moved WAY too quickly, and that we should pull back and just get back to dating again as neither of us is ready for that (I have a lot of my own shit I need to get to too, but I don’t think she believes me when I say this).
I want to text her to apologize and signal my agreement that things have moved too fast and space/getting back to dating is good, but wonder if it’s too soon still. She asked for physical distance, and not emotional/mental distance, and so I don’t want her to think I’m ghosting her cause I’m too sensitive (especially when she said that texting was okay).

Hi! Professor Huberman mentioned a few times that he takes berberine when eating abnormally large meals (and has friends who do the same). Berberine reduces blood sugar. My questions are ...
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1. What are the benefits of reducing blood sugar after a meal by using berberine, in both layman's terms and in "light" scientific terms? I found a nifty paper that goes deep into the mechanism behind berberine, but my non-bio-science brain cannot compute it. Are the outcomes that you feel physically better? That you are stressing you body less?
2. In a really bottom line sense, does taking berberine limit weight gain that is caused by acute overeating? For example, as a thought experiment, if I overeat by 3500 in a meal, does berberine help the "calories out" part of the metabolic equation? If so, how? If not, why not?

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Thank you for any input!

I just wanted to express my feelings regarding Russell M. Nelson’s decision to back away from the term Mormon. I understand the “Mormon” and “Mormons” have a much broader meaning outside the SLC based church and to the wider world. For instance the FLDS and the Community of Christ are by and large considered “Mormons” by the common man. So I just want to be clear: it is “The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints” that lied to and defrauded the US, Canadian, and Australian governments. It is the “Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints” that set up a rape coverup hotline. And it is the “Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints” that has lied to its membership about where and how their tithes are being spent (“nO tItHiNg fUnDs WeRe uSeD To BuiLd ciTy cReeK maLL”). Not to be confused with Mormons at large. Thanks for the distinction Rusty.

If a SaaS founder wants to sell their company, doing research is crucial to ensure a successful sale. Here are some key areas of research for a SaaS founder looking to sell their SaaS company:

1. Market Analysis: Understand the current market conditions, trends, and potential buyers. Research the demand for SaaS companies in your specific niche and identify potential acquirers who might be interested in your product.
   
2. Comparable Sales: Investigate recent sales of similar SaaS companies to get a sense of valuation ranges and deal structures. Analyze their financials, customer base, and the multiples at which they were sold. This information will help you determine a reasonable asking price for your company.
   
3. Financial Due Diligence: Conduct a comprehensive financial analysis of your company. This includes reviewing your revenue streams, growth rate, profitability, customer acquisition cost, churn rate, and other key financial metrics. Ensure that your financial records are accurate, audited (if applicable), and transparent.
   
4. Intellectual Property Rights: Assess the ownership and protection of your company's intellectual property (IP). This includes patents, trademarks, copyrights, trade secrets, and proprietary technology. Make sure all IP-related documentation is in order and up to date.
   
5. Customer Analysis: Understand your customer base, including their demographics, usage patterns, and customer lifetime value. Analyze customer feedback, satisfaction levels, and retention rates. Potential buyers will be interested in the quality and stability of your customer base.
   
6. Competitive Landscape: Evaluate your competitors and understand how your product differentiates itself in the market. Identify potential synergies and strategic advantages your company can offer to buyers.
   
7. Legal and Regulatory Compliance: Ensure your company is compliant with all applicable laws and regulations. Review contracts, licenses, agreements, and any legal obligations. Identify any potential liabilities or risks and address them appropriately.
   
8. Operational Analysis: Assess your operational efficiency, scalability, and infrastructure. Evaluate the strength of your team, organizational structure, and any dependencies that may impact the company's saleability.
   
9. Professional Assistance: Consider engaging professionals such as investment bankers, business brokers, or M&A advisors who specialize in selling SaaS companies. They can provide guidance, expertise, and support throughout the selling process.
   
10. Confidentiality and Non-Disclosure: Protect sensitive information during the research phase by executing non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) with potential buyers or anyone involved in the sale process.
    

Selling a SaaS company can be complex and time-consuming. It's essential to have a well-prepared due diligence package with comprehensive information about your company to attract potential buyers and negotiate the best possible deal. Is there anything missing from the list? If you've sold your company before, share what research you did!

I know this is a topic that's been done and overdone and then done some more, but holy shit, I got a heavy reminder.
So I was round at a kinda ex-hookup-turned-friend's place yesterday evening just to catch up (we'd run into each other on Bumble the day before and it got us talking again). Conversation naturally turned to our love live's the last year, ex's, breakups, our online dating horror stories...etc... (she'd lost count of the number of conservative suited and booted dudes that had asked her to do the cuckolding thing), and eventually she admitted she'd decided to pay for Bumble Premium or whatever to see who's really out there.
She says this, and while doing so takes out her phone to show me her match queue, and I see the number '1550+' on the number of dudes that had swiped right on her. 1550! Not as in the year, but as in the number of dicks.
I look down at my own, and see the number 21. A difference of 194.56%.
Fear not, despite my skinny wrists this isn't some incel woe is me it's all feminism's fault yadayada kinda post. For context, I'm not the worst looking guy, definitely not everyone's cup of tea (lean but pretty looking full time musician/ultra runneBritish expat in a European capital, liberal, intersectional feminist 33 year old, 185cm guy), and if I were to use awful internet terms, I'd say her and I are at a similar point attractiveness-wise (made even more clear by the fact we dated and both were into the other), similar kinda vibe on our profile, similar age...etc...
So, I guess it's just numbers. If there's truly that few women on these platforms compared to dudes it's just bound to always be this way, leaving me wondering if it's even worth bothering sticking around on them. The chances of actually being seen in the first place by anyone you're actually into yourself are basically next to nothing (unless both parties pay for it and you still have an abundance of luck).
Good news is, dudes that I really thought suited the model of 2023 ultra masculine type (which I feel is imprinted on us as as the current modern ideal) really viscerally disgusted her. Even guys I said 'What about him, he's cute' did nothing for her at all.
So, to close, of course we banged and I'm totally gonna marry her.

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The Little Mermaid Cast and Characters
The Little Mermaid was written by David Magee and directed by Rob Marshall. It stars the following actors:
Halle Bailey as Ariel
Melissa McCarthy as Ursula
Javier Bardem as King Triton
Noma Dumezweni as Queen Selina
Jonah Hauer-King as Prince Eric
Daveed Diggs as Sebastian
Awkwafina as Scuttle
Jacob Tremblay as Flounder
Art Malik as Sir Grimsby
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The official synopsis for The Little Mermaid by Walt Disney Studios read:
“The Little Mermaid” is the beloved story of Ariel, a beautiful and spirited young mermaid with a thirst for adventure. The youngest of King Triton’s daughters and the most defiant, Ariel longs to find out more about the world beyond the sea, and while visiting the surface, falls for the dashing Prince Eric. While mermaids are forbidden to interact with humans, Ariel must follow her heart. She makes a deal with the evil sea witch, Ursula, which gives her a chance to experience life on land, but ultimately places her life – and her father’s crown – in jeopardy.
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(We are both 16 year old girls by the way, she thought she was lesbian until she met him)
Some of the problem is a best friend should be able to talk about their best friends boyfriend with their best friend. I don’t talk about her bf with her because that day at the mall the mall after they started dating that she told Me I’m obsessed with you, and I would cry from missing you and if I hadn’t met my boyfriend we would be dating. I can’t get over it. She shouldn’t have said that to me and I shouodnt have said if she’s ever single then let me know. I don’t tell her that tho. We just act like it didn’t happen.
That’s the problem. And she’s over it but I just cant, and the fact that I’m extremely obsessed with her. And I can’t be a proper best friend this way. She’s also not 100 percent in the right with some stuff but like me too so. Like she doesn’t really text back much anymore or call me anymore ever and stuff like it just hurts (we go out or see each other when she has the time now) I get she’s busy but my obsession and how we used to be and my jelousy makes it hurt. Also going from being her number one and she was mine too. and doing everything with he calling every night and saying I love you all the time and her saying I wish we could live together and I would die for you, and going from having school lunch together every single day to her doing it with him instead, getting replaced by someone hurts no matter what and this hurts a lot
But I should have been able to adapt to that. The problme is my deep connection and obsession with her. I can’t really get over it and now it’s become really painful. I still love her and it’s just. I want us to go back to how we were… everyone has a best friend. And I had one it was absolutely amazing. It hurts.

This is gonna be a long and probably confusing post, trying to get my thoughts on paper or write them out just seems impossible at this point
My ex gf(34) and I M(29) broke up just under 5 weeks ago. We were in a LDR for 8 months and I fell hard in love with her
She was married and I was single, I never pursued her because of this. Until one night we were hanging out on a discord call with friends and she messaged me telling me how attractive she thinks I am, I at first thought she was messing around and thought nothing of it until a few more messages, then she came on very hard sexually. So I decided to say fuck it and go along with it cause i always found her attractive and we vibed. (I regret it everyday, at the time I didn't care about her marriage and I know how shitty I am for it, karma has well and truly done what it needed to do to me) this continued for a couple weeks, it was highly sexual, the messages, voice notes, videos, pictures and calls. This goes on for a couple weeks and then she started to talk about how she was feeling towards me, she would call me her twin flame, say things like she's never connected with anyone the way she does me etc. I always rejected the talk of feelings because I didn't want to go there. I didn't want to catch feelings as this was purely sexual to me. Fast forward a couple more weeks and at this point we have been talking a fuck ton, about very personal things, our childhoods, our life, bonded over music, games and whatnot. She continued to push her feelings for me and I continued to keep my guard up because I didn't want to end up in this position I am now in. She told me she was going to divorce her husband, I never commented or gave advice on it because lt was not my place to do so. I did tell her to heal from her divorce, take time for herself and find herself again. She agreed and wanted to do so, so she could be fully available to me. I know at this point we had already cheated and destroyed another man but I atleast respected her for wanting to heal. She filed for divorce and we continued to talk but then the subject of love came up. I told her I will not go there until me and her are in person and know how it really feels, she agreed but then one week goes by and she tells me she is in love with me. I was falling for her and knew how I felt but wanted us to do so in person. We then became a couple... I know how fucked up it is, I really do.
She would tell me weird things like men always hitting on her, always trying to get with her, send me screenshot of guys non stop bothering her. I never asked for these things, so It made me feel weird but I never communicated it, which I know is my fault and something I've learnt. At this point we were dating and she would complain of this one guy non stop bothering her and she can't get rid of him. I told her just tell the dude you're with your bf and he will probably back off, I was not happy with her over this because it felt like she was hiding me. She apologised and we moved forward with it, then she started lying about being in other guys streams. I called her out on her lies and she would always proceed to call me jealous and insecure, the thing that hurt the most was after our blowup she would go back into that guys stream and give him money. Felt like a kick in the gut. Was there jealousy there? Yes? I sat with it for a while to understand why I was being jealous and all I could think about was the amount of times she would tell me about different men trying to get with her and the little lies she would come up with, i could never prove she was lying and i know it made me sounds crqzy and possesive but i know what i saw and i know what my gut was telling me. I'm normally not a jealous man. This would happen a few times and it hurt me but I bottled it up and it came out in the wrong way. That's on me... another example is when she mentioned this man messaging her just after her divorce, wanting to take her out etc. She would shit talk this guy to me, call him creepy and whatnot. One day we were laying down and I look over to her, I glanced at her phone and here is the same guy she is calling a creep messaging her. I was furious, instead of confronting her I gave the silent treatment, immature of me I know but I just didn't know how to deal with what my gut was telling me, I rejected it all and refused to believe that this person I'm in love with is lying to me and God knows what else.
She also told me about a time her best friends husband tried to kiss her. Again, I dont know why she told me this but hey ho. She also told me how they both cheated on one another many times. She brought me to that house, I remember the four of us chilling in their garage having a drink, laughs and a smoke. Her friend showed me photos of a lake they all go to in the summer. As we left to head back home my gf goes on to tell me how she isn't happy with her friend, she didn't like the way she leaned over me to show photos. Then went on to say how I am her friends type and all this bullshit. I told her to take that up with her friend and leave me the fuck out of this cause I did nothing nore even notice something like that. We had a massive argument over it. Wasn't the first time she got jealous over another woman. I dont mind jealousy, i think its a normal reaction to have but as long as it doesnt become unhealthy and controlling, the other ones were minor but questions were asked about certain women liking photos on my Instagram. One I went on a date with once and the other who I worked with. That's it, I was happy to say who these people were and what they meant to me. I had nothing to hide. Time goes on and she flew over to me (London) for my birthday. We argued that night too and she threatened to leave me, I told her if she ever threatens to do so again, I will leave her as I found it cruel to put that one someone. Writing this out I realise how toxic this all was. Which hits me hard because I felt like I was in love and we connected so well. I wish I communicated how I felt better, I wish I didn't do what I did and I wish I was given a fair chance to be in love. I am also at fault for this I'm fully aware.
Fast forward to few weeks ago we have a massive row again because I called her out on her lies, she called me a psycho and too possessive. I tried to explain its not that you are in another man's stream, it's the fact that you lie about it and I don't know why, she then goes on to tell me im only ever comfortable when she goes to a her other best friends house, i said yes because she seemed level headed and honest, the reason i felt uncomfortable with her going to her other friends house was because of them doing cocaine in there, which she had told me about but it was all made out to be like i was jealous because the husband tried to kiss her. It had fuck all to do with that, its drugs and she knew how i felt about drugs. But I was starting to feel like I may genuinely be highly jealous and insecure. I dont know if that's because she has made me feel that way or I am like that. I've worked hard these last 2 months to make sure that's not the case. Anyway she forgave me and we moved forward, until 3 weeks later she said this isn't working. I begged, I pleaded and I didn't understand why I was given this chance and then had it snatched from me when I was doing everything I can to work on myself
She went on to say she wants to heal because she had just gotten out of an 11 year relationship, and be by herself. I found it hard to believe considering that's what she should've done 8 months ago, like we said. Then she proceeds to tell me its because of the hurt I caused her that night a few weeks ago when we argued. I accused her of lying, which she was.i didn't verbally assault or call her names I just asked her to tell me what is going on. We were intoxicated and I just had enough of the little lies. I know that is for me to work on and put right, I will accept anything and everything I've done wrong these last 8 months. I realise I'm a shitty person and whatever came from this relationship I deserved. But I feel like I was never given a chance considering how we started. I know I never should've got with a person that was married. The trust was not there because of it but still i pushed how i felt aside and rejected my gut feelings. I tried everything to make sure we didn't do that but words and time spent together. I fell in love
Not even two weeks went by and I found out she is already dating. I knew this would happen cause she done it to her husband, who the fuck am I right? I aint special. But I'm hurting so much, my confidence is shattered and I'm lost. She said she wanted space but keeps reaching out to me, told me she will always love me and how a piece of her heart will always belong to me. Its been 5 weeks and she still reaches out, not as frequent but will send me a message saying I really do want you yo be happy, I ignored her cause seeing her face just brings me to tears, she brought up how i am ignoring her messages and i told her if she wants to talk then let me know. She then messaged me saying she hopes I'm alright, I replied saying I'm alright thanks, yourself? My heart tells me to let her go, remove her from my socials and really start to heal but I can't let go and it's killing me
I know I deserve to feel how her husband felt when she moved on straight away. I get that but I don't think I deserved the emotional abuse here, I think its emotional abuse. I'm just so confused and trying to figure it out so I can learn from this
There will be things I have forgotten or not put in because the post is long enough but if there are any questions I will answer them. I dont want this to come across as me shitting on her and blaming her for everything. I know I had my part in this and I fucked up in so many ways but I cant escape the feeling of being emotionally abused here

My(32f) ex bf(33M) bf of 10 years came back, I am happy but anxious and not comfortable. Please help me!
My ex bf came back last month, I am happy but always anxious and not comfortable. What should I do?
I am (32F) from Asia and now live in Canada. I am a software engineer from a prestigious institution of UK and working in worlds biggest IT farms since 21. I met my boyfriend Sam(33M) 14 years back when I was studying in UK. He was a painter and I encouraged him to learn animation (funded the course fees) as his family was not present with both his mom and dad chose their own families after the divorce. He was vulnerable, used to work in a cafee near our university and lived in that cafee and used to draw cartoons on the road on his free time to sale to the tourists. Being a foreign student and very introvert, I had almost no friends from my class. I was always like this, busy with studies and not interested in anything else. Anyhow since I met Sam in the cafee he used to work, he became my only friend and best friend. Eventually I finished my Engineering and got job in a big company but the location was Germany. I was very sad to go to Germany leaving Sam behing but in my surprise he said he loved me and doesn't want to stay in UK alone. He accompanied me and we both started living in Germany in our 20s..due to language problem he didn't any job there(not even in cafee). I enrolled him to learn animation as he was very good in making cartoons. I fell in love with him eventually and we spent 4 years in Germany. But due to language issue Sam didn't get any job there I decided to take a job in Canada and we moved here together. It's high paying job so I bought a house and car. Sam got a job too in animation, it doesn't pay well but something that he likes. He had minimum contribution like sometimes groceries etc..almost all expenses were taken care by me. I used to travel all over the world till 2019 for my work(IT onsite work) and accompanied Sam everywhere with me. I told my family about Sam and they liked him. Only my mom was skeptical about not changing my religion, after marriage as Sam is Christian. Though we had no plan to get married when I told what my mom said jokingly and he took it in offense. Saying he is not thinking about marriage etc..I was offended like by 2020 we were already together more than 10 years so obviously we would get married sooner or later so what's the problem. It didn't set well with me so I pushed him about his reaction. He eventually told me that he is gay, he discovered this when he met a guy in an art exhibition and they clicked. They even secretly started meeting and he is from the same race as him(both are White). I asked if they are sleeping, he admitted yes and that's how he knew he is gay. The whole world shattered for me. The guy whom I sheltered, taken care and till now taking care of told me that he is just with me because he didn't know he is gay! And everything became untrue. The affection for me became habit and he didn't want to tell me because how much I have done for him. I cried, shouted and was so angry to waste 10+ years of my life and I lost my golden years! I calmed down and let him go, it was difficult for me to do so. Because I have psoriasis, starter around my 28 years and I am not comfortable with anyone else than Sam. After our breakup in 2020 covid hit hard. My travels stop. I couldn't go home and lived in that big house in this cold country alone. Worked from home and barely took care of myself. I saw the posts of Sam and his handsome boyfriend and lost it again. Sam begged me to keep contact as I am his only friend in this world. But he soon forgot about me and never contacted. I felt used and betrayed. I worked almost 20 hours a day and that helped my career a lot. I got a huge promotion and started traveling again since end of 2021. I was just back from my latest work trip from Spain and found Sam sitting on front of my house in May 2nd week. I was shocked and happy to see him. He hugged me and said I became slimmer. I never loved anyone but him so I became emotional and asked him what happened why is he here? He said that he realized that no one can love him more than I loved him. He realized that he is not gay but bi sexual and broke off with his bf (as he is very rude and bossy) and came backe to me. He tried to contact me but I was travelling so he came directly. I thought something was off but I still took him in. I asked him repeatedly if he really broke with his bf and what if he again goes for other guy. He brushed me off saying that I am the guy in our relationship as I provided for him and he doesn't need any other guy. I asked about him mentioning the same race thing. As I am from Asia will that be a problem again? He said that's the excuse his ex bf asked him to tell me so that I take offense and let him go. That night he wanted to kiss me but I told him not to rush and wait for some time. What if you patch up with your bf. He said he broke off totally and he is sure not to go back to him. but he understands my concerns and will wait till I am ready to take him back. This time he wanted to contribute in household a lot more and also apologized me profusely for taking me granted. Also asked why I am single since last 2 years is that because of my psoriasis or I still love him. I told him both are the reasons. My psoriasis is not that bad, only on fret and palms and can be covered and not visible to others. But while undressed it's obvious to be noticed. So I am very afraid of dating anyone except Sam who knows me well and accepts me as I am. I am happy and wants to kiss him and hug him but I am anxious all the time what if he leaves me again for another guy! I am not comfortable staring any relationship again with him thinking what if he again does not like me and keeps comparing with him ex. I tried to openly discuss but he is not getting it. Should I just tell him that it's not possible anymore because of his sexuality I no longer feel comfortable?

Hi everyone, I posted here a few days ago looking for insights regarding SI fusions as I was scheduled to finally have mine today after 2 years of absolute hell. All of your responses were incredible and I was going into surgery with a positive outlook.
I received a call yesterday from the surgical coordinator at my surgeons office that my insurance (Cigna) had not received PSYCHIATRIC EVAL CLEARANCE from my PCP that a psychological condition was not causing the perception of pain. My primary submitted everything but it was still "pending" as of this morning, so the surgery was cancelled as we were 15 minutes away from the hospital, which is over an hour drive for us.
Apparently Cigna is one of a handful of insurance companies that require this type of evidence for SI fusions only. I am devastated. I have a reschedule date of July 14th and am promised all will be set then. But it FUCKING SUCKS. My husband had to put in for the day off a month ago, my kids have been a wreck and now I have to postpone the inevitable and prolong their apprehension, I have been the primary caretaker for my mother who is bedridden from similarly extensive joint degeneration and recently had to admit her and discharge her within 72 hours of a nursing home comparable to hell on earth all because of this surgery. We have a new caretaker hired, had enrolled my daughter in early morning school care for the remainder of her school days. I am just so frustrated by the entire scenario.
I have anxiety managed through medication and had become an alcoholic due to the pain from this condition but am stabally managed on naltrexone (7 months sober!)
But you're right, Cigna. Perhaps the unrelenting pain I have every form of documentation for diagnostically may be wrong and it is all a fabrication due to my mental health. Fuck. Off.
Sorry everyone, but I knew I could post here because I'm sure others have had to deal with similar insurance issues, especially if they're in the US. If this isn't allowed here I apologize and feel free to remove it, I feel better getting these thoughts out.

It's a real question and not a kind of rent, I'm just amazed that so many human beings seem to have a servile mentality towards the supernatural world, with an addiction to Fantasy and the idea of a supposed moral relativity in particular when they have nothing to gain it's as if , forgive the term because I can't think of any others , there was a form of spiritual "autism" especially among New-Ages and esoteric groups. Even without talking about archons, the fact that all ancient pagan nations practiced human sacrifice and even cannibalism is well known, whether it be the Druids, with corpses being discovered all over France, the Vikings, the Phonecians or the Mesoamerican peoples. The fact that even the public leaders of this world are particularly fond of the occult and that Bohemian grove ceremonies are freely accessible and that the Lucifer Trust of the United Nations was founded by a theosophist who claimed to channel ascended masters from Shamballah . And I'm not even going to talk about Missings 411.
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What amazes me is that many people, even among those who are open to this kind of thing, seem to suffer from a form of spiritual autism or obsessions with Fantasy and the Status Quo for lack of a better term. Occultists who sacrifice children and manipulate the masses for physical and esoteric gain are at least honest and inteligent, even if totally egotistical. The thing is, a lot of people in the spiritual community aren't even at that level - they seem to hope for some kind of neutrality where they can build their fantasy worlds, play sorcerers and have cute relationships with pagan deities or demons who demanded pagan sacrifices and sexual slavery a few millennia ago. If these entities exist and appear physically, all delusions of moral relativity or spiritual neutrality will be destroyed and it's their children who will be sacrificed and raped. It's like people who idolize Hellenic deities and say that gods aren't subject to the same moral rules, but if Jupiter were to rape their children and kill their families, they'd be the first to call them tyrannical demons. it's a kind of cognitive dissonance or even intellectual cowardice
Some people may themselves confess to all sorts of theories and conspiracies, but they'd be the first to go back to worshipping the gods and having a servile relationship with them. At least if they were honest and brave and agreed to worship demented deities in exchange for physical privileges I could understand .